Anxiety resources are one of the keys to feeling better. So what’s the first to understand?
It has to be relaxation.
Think of your anxiety a little like a light switch, on is anxious and off is relaxed. It’s simple but profound.
It’s physically impossible to be relaxed and anxious at the same time. Relaxation is the first practical tool I teach my clients to use in the fight against their anxiety. Why?
Because it puts the power back in the anxious clients’ hands, and an empowered client has made a first step towards recovery. That is one of the benefits of relaxation, we CAN all do it, sometimes we forget how, but it is an ability we all share.
A little like Carl Jung’s idea of the common subconscious, relaxation is a natural healing resource that we can all access to fight anxiety, with the right help.
I’m not talking about the bottle of wine and a film type of relaxation with Facebook pinging all the way through; I’m talking about deep relaxation of the autonomic nervous system. It’s kryptonite for anxiety.
And that is something most of us very rarely do.
And it’s the ultimate ‘me time’. If you don’t know that, do yourself a huge favour and try it out even if you aren’t struggling.
Hypnosis is a fantastic tool to kick start the relaxation process if it’s been long neglected, so is mindfulness or meditation. Whichever way it happens, once it happens, clients have a tool they can access anywhere to turn the intensity right down, like you would a radio.
Think of that from the anxious person’s perspective. They are often confused, frightened, lonely, and sometimes desperate but mostly they want tools. They want to help themselves.
In the toolbox, relaxation is the soft, soothing, comforting, velvety hammer of anxiety. You can use it and enjoy using it too. It’s not the medicine that made us screw our faces up as kids. It feels good and it helps, what’s not to love about relaxation?
You can feel it working too, slower heart rate, lower blood pressure, steady, easy breathing, benefit after benefit after benefit.
Every time you flick on or off a light switch, think of it… anxiety on, relaxed off.